True Love Waits...??

Disclaimer: This is a purely opinionated blog, and if you think you disagree with me, tell me why, and I'll accept that. Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion, and everyone should respect that. So, no flames please.

I recently got an invitation on facebook to a group called "True Love Waits..." Other than the fact that I was initially turned off by the unnecessary use of ellipses in the group's name, I was boggled by the idea that "True Love Waits." What does that mean? The first thing that came to mind was that True Love is waiting somewhere out there for you, and that there are numerous possibilities for you to find it, and that you shouldn't worry, coz it will only stop waiting for you when you ultimately find it.

But my interpretation was dead wrong. Upon visiting the group's webpage, the description said that the members believe that True Love waits till marriage to have sex.

Okayyyyyyy...

So I denied the invitation. End of story. *Bow*






...just kidding!

But I did deny the invitation. I believe that sex is a necessary part of a relationship, and one that should be consensual and not hindered by something such as marriage. I do believe that sex should neither be the start of a relationship, nor should it be the foundation. Sex should be the apogee of a relationship, the epitome of physical intimacy, and the most esoteric and ethereal medium through which love is conveyed. And if sex is the next level towards which the relationship is rocketing, I don't think it should be impeded by religion, or society, or marriage. Because eventhough sex is the apogee, it is still yet another breaking point in a relationship, since I believe that sex is one of the crucial cogs of a long-term reationship.

Now I do not patronize pre-marital sex, but I don't condemn it either. It depends on the situation, and what responsibilities a couple can tolerate once sex has become a part of their relationship (because obviously, sex means babies and STDs).

What I'm most disappointed by is the fact that some people marry early for the sake of sex. And once a couple finds out that they're not sexually compatible, the marriage deteriorates. Some people might find that the sex keeps on improving, and that the first time is usually the worst, but how can we be so sure?

I believe that the condemnation of pre-marital sex is just another way of controlling the population, but as we zoom in on the more educated folks, it doesn't quite apply. We are neither animals, nor are we maleducated. To me, religion should be like parenting. Our parents impose rules for us to know what's wrong or right, but as we grow and gain knowledge, they let go of us, because they trust that we can do the right thing. Religion has its rules, protocols and beliefs, but I believe that our free will enables us to tread our own paths to salvation.

And what about the people who don't have the right to marry? When will they be able to enjoy sex? Bah humbug!